There was this guy, Maslow, who decided one day to put humans’ needs into distinct categories, from the most basic needs (e.g. food, sex) to the most complex ones ( e.g. self-actualization).

There is a category, upper middle, called “self-esteem”. The term is general therefore it comprises many aspects of the need called “self-esteem”, such as confidence and respect – respect for and mostly FROM others.

What does this mean? Well, it basically means that one needs to feel respected above being fed. Right? It means that for any given person, to be respected is important. How do you translate this into more words?

One needs to be recognized as valuable (respected for that). This means that YOU are valuable, I am valuable etc. In my mind, I deserve more than you cause my value is higher than yours, right? Therefore in my mind I am more important than you. Which means that you and all your friends and MY friends need to show me more respect, show me I am more valuable, therefore more important. Therefore the center of YOUR universe, not just mine!

There are ways, of course, to become aware of the traps, but many of us don’t really give a fuck; we don’t dive in, we don’t investigate and do not fix mistakes. WE JUST DEMAND.