I would not say routine per se. I was not diagnosed officially with BPD, because I hate going to therapy. I prefer to deal with it in my own way and trust me it is not a piece of cake. But I prefer to know myself better and help myself the ways I can. So far, so good. I have seen many improvements with myself. My swings happen less and less; if you wish for me to detail this, let me know. Also note that I am a silent one, as in i am not a typical BPD. nobody knows I even suffer from this, nobody needs to know anyway.

So, routine topic: it is not really routine per se, but planning. Plan your upcoming day: when do I wake up, what do I do next etc. The plan helps you, first of all, organize the simple elements of your life – therefore create a routine (after 1 week you can already know what works for you and what does not). Example: I started my day with coffee and 1 cigarette. Right now I have dropped the morning cig. Cause it was causing me nausea. So I stick with just coffee.

After some practice, I started dropping toxic people from my life – the ones that were causing me triggers, the ones that were NOT the loved ones. I prefer to have 1–2 friends and share stuff with them, rather than befriend everyone. Obviously I struggle with Idealization/devalue everyday BUT i keep focus – I saved my friendship with those people because those are the only ones that MATTER to me.

I have started exercises, going to gym and all. It took me 2 years to decide what kind of sports/routines I most enjoy – but until then I tried everything.

I have also tried to find board games, computer games, any activity that would benefit my stabilization process – so guess what, I LOVE “Cards Against Humanity”, being a game that suits me as an individual.

Conclusion: start with small steps, end the comparison to other people’s lives. Start living YOUR life, as YOU like it. YOU are the one organizing it, you are the only one that actually knows what you like/dislike. Know yourself better!

Good luck!